ot: where did you meet your wife/gf ?

fletcher21 · Post by **fletcher21** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 2:50 pm

just curious... i was talking to a buddy of mine who is closer to you guys` average age (mid 40's) and he explained that he had met both his x wives in a bar, and that his current gf he also met there, and we were talking about it and whether or not it's destined for divorce # 3 ahha... anyways, i am curious where did you meet your wives/gf, maybe some of you have some funny stories.... i imagine db met his gf while she was working at hooters LoL, pk probably met his at a library or a restaurant, dave lives in mn so i know damn where there is nothing to do here, so he probably met his wife out of state haha

just curious about this, i am sure some of you have some funny s*** to tell

Dave · Post by **Dave** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 3:23 pm

Word up fletch, I didn't meet my wife up here. We met at a small college in a small town in Indiana. Kind of a funny story, our first conversation revolved around me sitting in a way so the prof couldn't see her sleeping. Awful class, but it was in my major so I had to stay awake. Obviously, future conversations moved beyond sleeping in class.

dbdynsty25 · Post by **dbdynsty25** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 3:36 pm

I wish I could say I met my girl in Hooters but I didn't. She was a friend of a friend. I was living in Az at the time, I met her on one of my trips home, and a couple months later, she was visiting me in Az. I know, I know...I've got crazy game. One meeting and a few conversations on the IM and I've got the chick driving 400 miles to see me.

vraknari · Post by **vraknari** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 3:42 pm

my wife and i started dating when i was a manager at the GAP and she was a regular salesperson.

we had to keep our relationship a "secret" since that type of thing was frowned upon.

pk500 · Post by **pk500** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 4:11 pm

The story of how I met my wife is so strange that it's hard to believe. But it's true, every bit of it:

During my senior year in college, my buddies and I raided a local neighborhood on the seasonal "big trash" day. It's the day in which people can put out more than just cans of trash; they can put out big-ticket items like furniture, etc.

Anyways, a disproportionately large number of people had put Big Wheels out to the curb. You remember Big Wheels, right? The plastic three-wheeled tricycles?

We ended up taking about four Big Wheels from the trash piles in the neighborhood and returned to the parking lot of our on-campus apartment to have some beer-soaked Big Wheel races one afternoon.

We're racing, drinking, having a great time without a care for the odd looks we were getting from other students. I'm heading back to the starting line after a race when this hot blonde walks out of the apartment next to ours. I didn't really know our neighbors to that side that well, as it was early in the semester.

I thought to myself, "Man, that is one hot broad." Combine that with the troubles I was having at the time with my then-girlfriend, something snapped in my head. I had to meet this girl right away.

So I swung my Big Wheel toward her and started to scoot hard toward her. We rode our Big Wheels scooter-style, by the way. I figured I would stop just before I reached her and pull up the front wheel and say hi. Talk about a dramatic, immature introduction!

What did I have to lose? She either would say, "Kiss off, you immature dick," or say "hi" in return.

Luckily for me, she said "hi" in return, and I introduced myself. We started talking and became friends quickly. I soon learned she also was unhappy in her then-relationship, and we became even closer friends. I graduated that semester; she graduated a semester later. And two months after her graduation, we were "an item."

Fast-forward three years, and we were hitched. Fast-forward another 13-plus years, and we're still together, with two kids and another due in six weeks.

Strange, but 100 percent true without a touch of exaggeration. A plastic Big Wheel was the conversation and transportation piece that sparked the meeting between me and the love of my life.

Thanks, Mattel.

Take care,
PK

F308GTB · Post by **F308GTB** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 4:32 pm

Dang fletch, could this perhaps be the start of a softer, romantic guy that wants to settle down? Personally, your bud who has the 2 ex-wives was probably destined for them. Pick-ups in a bar? I can't imagine finding "true love" there.

Me? I met mine in high school. Dated 5 or 6 years and as soon as I was done with my undergraduate work at Michigan, we were hitched. Got out of school a few days before Christmas in 1990 and was married a few weeks later on January 5, 1991. So 14 years this Wednesday.

Kazuya · Post by **Kazuya** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 4:43 pm

F308GTB wrote:Dang fletch, could this perhaps be the start of a softer, romantic guy that wants to settle down? Personally, your bud who has the 2 ex-wives was probably destined for them. Pick-ups in a bar? I can't imagine finding "true love" there.

So your wife has never been to a bar? What a catch!

F308GTB · Post by **F308GTB** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 4:52 pm

Kazuya wrote:
F308GTB wrote:Dang fletch, could this perhaps be the start of a softer, romantic guy that wants to settle down? Personally, your bud who has the 2 ex-wives was probably destined for them. Pick-ups in a bar? I can't imagine finding "true love" there.
So your wife has never been to a bar? What a catch!

She's never had a lick of liquor in her life. A good woman who knows how to have fun without the influence of booze.

Kazuya · Post by **Kazuya** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 5:07 pm

F308GTB wrote:
She's never had a lick of liquor in her life. A good woman who knows how to have fun without the influence of booze.

LOL... not the answer I expected, but the point is that a bar is just a place. I wouldn't tell someone to go and look for their future wife in a bar, but if you do go and you meet someone that you like then what difference does it make where you are? Besides, pk sounded pretty influenced when he met his wife and it turned out great for him.

Most men's wives have been in a bar before, even if that's not where they met them. I don't think that makes them any less suitable for marriage, or if they would have met at the bar instead of wherever they did meet that their relationship would have turned out any differently.

pk500 · Post by **pk500** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 5:12 pm

I think whether you met in a bar depends a lot on your age. If you're in your teens or 20s and meet in a bar, big sh*t. Nearly everybody in that age group spends their weekend nights in some sort of an establishment serving alcohol.

But I would be a bit more suspect of meeting the love of your life in a bar once you're into your mid-30s and beyond. Usually by then, most people have outgrown "the bar scene," and those who haven't tend to be the troll types who lack a ton of personal responsibility, in my experience. Note I used the verb "tend," not the verb "are."

There are exceptions to every rule. But chicks under 35 who hang regularly in bars usually are normal chicks. Chicks over 35 who hang regularly in bars usually either are lounge lizards or "me-first" divorcees aching for c*ck. Not exactly the prime mate material for many guys.

Take care,
PK

Jackdog · Post by **Jackdog** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 6:27 pm

I transfered down to Columbus from Detroit for my last 3 years of high school. I moved in with my uncle and he registered me at Archie Griffin's old high school Eastmoor. Matter of fact I had the pleasure of playing fullback and blocking for his youngest brother Keith.

Keith's girlfriend was a cheerleader and she would tease me doing two a days that she knew another cheerleader that had a crush on me. I bugged her until she told me who it was. It was my future wife Carol. When I asked her to give me her phone number she said no and also told me she had no interest in me at all. I figured someone played a joke on me and moved on.

When the school started session I ended up in the office after getting into a fight with an over zealous Bucknut fan. He ended up being Carol's older brother Greg.

While I was waiting to be suspended, I noticed Carol was working as an office helper. I asked her out again. She said no,and asked me to stop bothering her.

Well our second game that year was a roadtrip to Paul Brown Stadium to play the Massillon Tigers. We went up early and our coach took us to the Pro Football Hall Of Fame. The band and cheerleaders also went on the tour. I saw her fine ass again and thought I would give it another try. All I got was an evil ass look from her, I bailed.

During the game I picked up a linebacker blitz and got knocked out cold. I mean I was out. No movement,no nothing. All I remember seeing was a bright flash then out. I woke up to smelling salts and Carol's pretty face. She was crying and holding my hand. I was cool with that.

My head coach told me after the game that he thought she was my cousin so he let her on the field. On the bus ride back to C-Bus she told me she was very shy and had never had a boyfriend. She admitted to the crush and I was head over heels. I had a minor concussion and a soulmate for life. That was 27 years ago. We have been married for 24.

You all can go puke now.

mobiggins · Post by **mobiggins** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 6:49 pm

Wow...that's classic Jack.

Perfect example of the old adage that they're being mean to you because they like you.

Trouble for a guy like me is that the other 50% of the time they're being mean to you because they really truly want you to leave them alone.
Sometimes I wish I had Predator-style vision to tell who I should go after.
But that's another story...

Leebo33 · Post by **Leebo33** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 6:57 pm

I met my wife at work. We were both single and lived close to each other. She asked me to come over to her place to play tennis. After playing for a few minutes, I soon realized that she sucked at tennis really bad and that probably wasn't the reason why she wanted to play....LOL. We had about 3 or 4 tennis sessions. Each time that we played the tennis got shorter and the beverage breaks by the pool were longer. In fact, the last time we played tennis for about 10 minutes and sat by the pool for an hour or two talking. A few weeks later we became "an item."

vader29 · Post by **vader29** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 7:21 pm

Great story on how you got together with you wife Jack. I hope someday to be lucky enough to find my soulmate as many of you guys have because there are many days when the single life just flat out sucks.

Maybe I need to get me a Big Wheel.

fletcher21 · Post by **fletcher21** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 7:30 pm

vader true that but let me tell you.. having a gf around the holidays is expensive, and having a serious gf around valentines day is the worst... its like 2 weeks leading up to it of total bullshit and stuff, and you know that if you don't get her flowers and all that othe rshit its going to be a bunch of drama... i say wait to find a girl til after february 14

LAking · Post by **LAking** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 8:54 pm

fletcher21 wrote:vader true that but let me tell you.. having a gf around the holidays is expensive, and having a serious gf around valentines day is the worst... its like 2 weeks leading up to it of total bulls*** and stuff, and you know that if you don't get her flowers and all that othe rs*** its going to be a bunch of drama... i say wait to find a girl til after february 14

Tell me about it! I absolutely HATE buying jewelery and crap like that for women. First of all, I don't like that stuff for myself. You will never see me wearing a gold necklace or a fancy watch so i have no idea how to pick that stuff out for someone who does like it. Second, i'm just not romantic in a cheesy movie type of way. I'm a realist. The best moments are when stuff just happens or you are simply enjoying eachothers company, not when you orchestrate some "perfect" event. I hate all things fake.

I just broke up with my GF of two years because she moved away to a better school. I couldn't stand when i had to buy her some expensive @$$ ring when she got me something worth half as much. Not that i didn't like the stuff i got a lot, just don't expect me to shell out money i simply don't have just to satisfy your need for all things shiny. I don't expect gifts from others and i can live without them if it's the smarter thing to do. I may sound cheap but it's simply not fair, especially when i'm still a starving student with a huge credit card bill. If I had money to just blow on crap I would, but i also have reservations about supporting things that I see as almost pointless. I'm a total supporter of womens rights and equality and sometime i see the whole idea of men buying expensive useless jewelery for women as a symbol of the old days when men needed to "support" women because all they were supposidly good for was taking care of kids and satisfying their man physically. I know i'm different from a lot of people but that's just the way i see it sometimes. Yet another random rant from me.
All that being said, i'm now on the lookout again for that special someone. I'm really shy and not into bars and clubs and that stuff so it can be hard. Wish i had the luck that some of you guys have. But then again i'm still pretty young so i'm not too worried.

Spooky · Post by **Spooky** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 9:01 pm

Ahhh...interesting topic...a bit too tame for a 'Flecth' post so I fear that there may be some underlying motive, however...

I actually met my girlfriend about 12 years ago in North Carolina. I had just moved there from Chicago and the first week I got down there I happened to meet a guy that had moved from the same suburb I was from, but just a couple years earlier. We became friends and it turned out that he and his family knew quite a few of the same people we did VERY well. Like, pictures from when he was little with my sisters current boyfriend in the background cause they were neighbors growing up. Total small world story. Anyway, his brother had just gotten married and was living in Chicago. His wife was Beth (my now girlfriend). They had just had a son and came down to visit the family in NC in 1993. That is when I first met both of them. I became good friends with both of them but Beth and I became very close (strictly as friends though). She was my closest female friend and we just totally bonded.

I ended up moving back to Chicago in December of 1994 and stayed with Beth and her husband and son for about a month until I found a place to live. Needless to say Beth and I became very close (again, JUST as friends). I think we both subconsciously had small crushes on each other, but the situation was obviously not conducive for anything to develop. I think I more-or-less just told myself that she was exactly the type of girl that I needed in my life, but it would never be her specifically.

Later that year I ended up becoming quite serious with girl I met in college. Ironically her name was 'Beth Ann'. Even more ironic is that 'my' Beth's middle name is Ann. Kind of 'spooky'.

Beth was happy for me and we actually all kind of became 'couples' friends and did things like New Years and dinners together.

Well, throughout the years Beth had some confidential conversations with me where she expressed she was not very happy in her current situation and I always tried to help the best I could but ultimately tried to encourage her to work through it (probably cause I was afraid what would happen if she ever really became single).

Eventually my relationship with 'Beth Ann' fizzled out after a couple years and I think Beth saw that as a sign to start getting out of her situation. Throughout that time Beth and I became even closer and I was really her crutch as she was gearing up for making some life changes. About a year after I became single, Beth did also. It was a very hard time for her and a very complex time for me as I was friends with both of them (her and her ex) but had to be there for Beth in the end.

Not too long after, feelings were expressed and HUGE revelations came out about things that we had felt for each other. Eventually we started to make it more official when the time was right for both us and her children.

To this day we both think we handled things PERFECTLY with all involved and could not be happier!!! She is truly the love of my life and she is the ONE reason that I truly believe in fate.

WOW! Guess I had a bit of a story to tell huh!?!?!

fletcher21 · Post by **fletcher21** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 9:09 pm

dame spooky that's nuts....

dbdynsty25 · Post by **dbdynsty25** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 9:09 pm

Then the next week...Spooky got his ass kicked cuz "Ann's" husband realized that all those times he was being the nice guy and letting the 'friend' stay over cuz he didn't have somewhere to live, eventually broke up his marriage.

fletcher21 · Post by **fletcher21** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 9:12 pm

lol... that reminds me... this guy i work with, his wife has a male "friend" who lives with them... now, his wife does not sleep in my co workers bed, she sleeps downstairs with the "friend"... the friend lives there for 300$ a month and basically sits at home all day making a mess and eating their food... talk about a raw deal, i told my co worker hes a f***in idiot but hes like "shes not cheating on me they are friends"... yeah ok lol... he wants a divorce and so does she but neither can afford to file for one and neither can make it on their own with just 1 paycheck.... sad world lol

Kazuya · Post by **Kazuya** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 9:14 pm

dbdynsty25 wrote:Then the next week...Spooky got his ass kicked cuz "Ann's" husband realized that all those times he was being the nice guy and letting the 'friend' stay over cuz he didn't have somewhere to live, eventually broke up his marriage.

lmao... actually, I don't think he crossed any lines. I think in the story he met husband and wife at the same time, so really you could say she was more his friend than the husband. If it had been some long time friend's wife, then Spooky probably would have been due an ass-kicking.

Spooky · Post by **Spooky** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 9:16 pm

dbdynsty25 wrote:Then the next week...Spooky got his ass kicked cuz "Ann's" husband realized that all those times he was being the nice guy and letting the 'friend' stay over cuz he didn't have somewhere to live, eventually broke up his marriage.

Yeah, it was not the coolest thing in the world for me to do, BUT, it was like 6 years later (after I stayed with them) and she was divorced before we started dating. What am I supposed to do...say forget it since I was kind of friends withyour ex husband and he was nice to me!?!?!

pk500 · Post by **pk500** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 9:16 pm

Very well said, LAKing.

I'm lucky in that my wife doesn't go for all that Valentine's Day bullsh*t. We both know it's just a day used an excuse to sell candy and cards. Sounds corny, but every day should be Valentine's Day if you're really in love.

My wife likes a nice dinner out for her birthday, and I always get her a dozen roses on our anniversary. Other than that and small amounts of Christmas gifts we exchange (usually around $100 worth of gifts to her, and $100 worth or so to me), she's a woman who gets jazzed when I do unexpected "little things" for her like cook dinner, do the laundry, get up early with the kids, buy her a card when it's NOT Valentine's Day, grab her a pack of her favorite candy on a trip to the drug store, rub her back, whatever.

The little things go a lot further than the expensive jewelry in the long run, and they don't kill your wallet nearly as much.

Another reason why my wife is tops.

Take care,
PK

fletcher21 · Post by **fletcher21** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 9:19 pm

can't turn a ho into a housewife

jk

Spooky · Post by **Spooky** » Sun Jan 02, 2005 9:21 pm

Kazuya wrote:
dbdynsty25 wrote:Then the next week...Spooky got his ass kicked cuz "Ann's" husband realized that all those times he was being the nice guy and letting the 'friend' stay over cuz he didn't have somewhere to live, eventually broke up his marriage.
lmao... actually, I don't think he crossed any lines. I think in the story he met husband and wife at the same time, so really you could say she was more his friend than the husband. If it had been some long time friend's wife, then Spooky probably would have been due an ass-kicking.

That is kind of how I see it too! Thanks Kaz!!! Here are the facts:

I DID meet them at the same time.

I was always closer with her than him (JUST as friends).

She was NOT happy in her marriage BEFORE I even met them.

It was not like I was long time friends with her ex, and they were totally happy and I came in with a mission to break them up. It was VERY much the opposite and I was even trying to keep them together in most of the talks I would have with Beth.

I do like that my post is so controversial though!