Poll: Single or Married?

James_E · Post by **James_E** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 1:37 pm

FloridaGators wrote:
dbdynsty25 wrote:
FloridaGators wrote:I'm single and 20 and trying to get college girls. I actually could have "banged" a girl Fletch style at a party the other night but didn't feel like using my first time on a slut, something I am getting a lot of flack for from my friends.
Umm...yeah...you should be getting flack from your friends. And it doesn't seem like a very smart thing to say on a public forum either. Sack it up, wrap it up, and drop hammer on that no good filthy slut.
Forum or not I just personally feel that anyone that has sex with a girl should know a good deal about them before having sex with them. Just seems like the right thing to do. You don't know what you could be getting into, with a random girl.

FG = young man with head on straight. Good job.

James_E · Post by **James_E** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 1:41 pm

7 years married, 2 kids (4 and 2.5)

Got married at 27, she was 25. We'd known each other for a long time, then dated for about 1 year, and lived together for 1 year.

There's been ups and downs, and fights, but I never wonder whether I did the right thing. She's my best friend. It's not easy sometimes, but you have to see past the short term things you want (like maybe going out with the boys) and realize that you're in something bigger than a night out.

Jason · Post by **Jason** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 1:47 pm

I'm 35 and have been happily (most of the time) married for 6.5 years. With a 4-year old son and a 1-year old daughter, there are times I wish I had more free time, but I've never regretted my decision to get married.

When my wife was in the hospital after she gave birth to our daughter last year (on my birthday), my son stayed over at my parent's house and I thought it was going to be so nice to go home to a quiet house for the rest of the night. Needless to say, that was one of the most lonesome nights I've ever had.

Teal · Post by **Teal** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 1:58 pm

"I guess I was expecting her to stay exactly the "same girl I married" forever, but that was probably naive thinking."

Yeah, that isn't going to happen for one reason: when you're dating, you tend to put on the best face you can. The overwhelming temptation after the "I do's" is to relax, let your hair down, and stop trying to impress. It's easy to do, and it does cause some "what did I do?" moments when you realize that Cinderella is really not that girl that was all dressed up at the Ball.

That being said, you're probably not exactly the "same guy" she married, either. But I've found that love is a funny thing. It isn't that funny feeling in the pit of your stomach. If it were, nobody would ever stay married, because that always goes away. New is always exciting, but every thing gets ho hum after a while. Go check your game collection. How many games do you still have that you purchased at the outset of your hobby? You get rid of them simply because you have an infatuation with them, and that goes away. But if you really loved them, even when everything tells you to trade or sell, you wouldn't-you'd grit your teeth and decide to keep it. Marriage is the same way.

There are days that I would like to be anywhere but where my wife is. They don't happen often, but they do happen. It's those days when I know whether or not I love my wife, because I choose to grind it out despite the best efforts of my "feelings". And to choose that has always been the right decision.

3 years sounds about right for a bout with the "blahs". I did it, too. Think I did it again at 7 years (you know, the 7 year itch and all). Just hang in there, Jack. A little personal advice: If you feel like you married the wrong person or for the wrong reasons, make a conscious effort to treat her for the next 2 weeks as absolutely the right woman. Treat her the way you did when you were dating, even if, especially if you don't feel like it, and see what happens...

Jackdog · Post by **Jackdog** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 2:17 pm

My loving wife has put up with my ass for 24 years. We met and started dating when we were 15. So we have been swapping spit for 27 years.

As some of you might know,I am no day at the beach. Carol was the perfect military wife. She has put up with constant travels, and many worrisome days. She has earned a degree in accounting and a Masters in education. Yet she had the lack of brain cells to stick with me.

We waited until our early 30's to have a child. Carol is a wonderful mother,wife and friend. I truly found the love of my life.

RobVarak · Post by **RobVarak** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 2:54 pm

Married for 8 years, with two kids (2 and 3.5 months). Couldn't really be happier, and seldom if ever even think about being single.

jLp vAkEr0 · Post by **jLp vAkEr0** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 3:07 pm

I'm 25(26 in january).
Got a girlfriend of 1yr + 1 month.
We've been talking about getting married sometime in late 2006. I'm very happy with her and hopefully it does happen in 2006. I'm thinking of giving her a pre-ring next summer, maybe earlier.

FG:

p***y!!

Airdog · Post by **Airdog** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 3:09 pm

Not married at 22 (with no plans to have been at this point). The girl who I thought it might have happened with (and who I probably would've proposed to in April of this year, as it would've been four years) acquired a fantastic eating disorder and decided to have a ton of sex with not much of it being with me.

Her family is also completely f***ed up and she's endured a ton of mental and physical abuse under that roof.

She still occasionally calls and asks to get back with me, but I obviously refuse (and she hasn't called in two weeks, wowie).

Then another relationship that I got into after that one which was going along perfect was also destroyed by another pair of f***ed up parents. In short: I'm taking a year or two sabbatical from serious relationships. Combine that s*** with the fact that my parents split up last Christmas and I'm just begging for Christmas to pass.

EDIT: I'm fast coming to the realization that most girls' parents are completely messed up.

jLp vAkEr0 · Post by **jLp vAkEr0** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 3:13 pm

Airdog wrote: I'm fast coming

Did we really need to know that?

Airdog · Post by **Airdog** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 3:13 pm

And btw, I hope that your wives don't anonymously check up on what you guys say on DSP or a few of you might be screwed.

Airdog · Post by **Airdog** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 3:15 pm

LOL javi, I fixed it. The post at least, but the premature ejaculation may very well haunt me for the rest of my life.

JK of course.

jLp vAkEr0 · Post by **jLp vAkEr0** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 3:16 pm

slyguy · Post by **slyguy** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 3:24 pm

Married 17 years tomorrow with 3 great boys(one of them has got to make the big leagues

)Anyway got married young, kind of down and out after my baseball career went down the tubes because of injury.But its been 17 years and still going strong

Leebo33 · Post by **Leebo33** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 3:24 pm

Airdog wrote:And btw, I hope that your wives don't anonymously check up on what you guys say on DSP or a few of you might be screwed.

I know my wife does. I thought it was rather odd when she started referring to herself in the third person a couple years ago. I put two and two together when she gave me the password to one of the DSP College Hoops tourneys a few weeks ago.

GROGtheNailer · Post by **GROGtheNailer** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 3:31 pm

Like JackDog, i've been with my wife since I was 15 years old...i'll be 40 in just over 2 weeks. Have a 15 year boy and a 12 year old girl.

Do not regret a thing and i'd kill for my wife at the drop of a hat and I know she'd do the same for me.

sportdan30 · Post by **sportdan30** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 3:45 pm

I guess this forum is definitely not the norm when it comes to unhappy marriages. What's the divorce rate in the US? Something close to 75% or thereabouts. That's pretty uncommon that everyone who has posted is happy with their marriages, although we haven't heard from everyone here obviously.

I'm very much happy being married, but there are times that I just feel content and wonder how life would be if I were single. Then I remember the times that she takes the kids to Chicago to visit the in-laws. Woohoo, free weekend! I love sleeping in, going to the gym when I want, ordering in a pizza and watching the ballgame without fighting over the remote. However, by Sunday the house is just too damn quiet. I'm ready for the laughs and craziness that comes when all of us are together.

I do believe our biggest problem in our marriage is also our greatest joy. Our kids. There's absolutely nothing more rewarding and tremendously fun than spending time with my kids ( ages 2-1/2 and 10 months). I wouldn't trade them for a billion dollars. I'm sure nobody on this board would with theirs. But, it's difficult balancing parenthood and being a husband sometimes. We're both always pretty exhausted that we're just ready to lounge in front of the tv and veg out when they go to bed. We rarely go out on dates because of the cost of babysitting and the kids being so young. We haven't been on vacation together in over 3 years. So, it's easy to fall into a rut.

I once read that each day you should compliment your signifcant other on one thing or another. Whether it be how they look in a particular blouse, or taking time to clean the house alone, etc. Just knowing that you're appreciated and loved feels wonderful. Not to mention it'll make you feel better about yourself.

Good luck Jack. Most of us have all been there.

Jason · Post by **Jason** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 3:51 pm

sportdan30 wrote:I do believe our biggest problem in our marriage is also our greatest joy. Our kids. There's absolutely nothing more rewarding and tremendously fun than spending time with my kids ( ages 2-1/2 and 10 months). I wouldn't trade them for a billion dollars. I'm sure nobody on this board would with theirs. But, it's difficult balancing parenthood and being a husband sometimes. We're both always pretty exhausted that we're just ready to lounge in front of the tv and veg out when they go to bed. We rarely go out on dates because of the cost of babysitting and the kids being so young. We haven't been on vacation together in over 3 years. So, it's easy to fall into a rut.

I couldn't agree more. To be honest, most of the arguments I have with my wife now are due to the kids. After spending an entire day with two hyper kids and after getting up at 4am with my daughter (almost every morning), my wife is not always in the best mood when I get home from work. It's the same way when my wife works and I'm home with the kids. Kids are alot of fun but they are NOT easy and can add alot of stress to a marriage.

Post by **Jared** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 4:34 pm

Been married for one month today. So far, so good.

Jason · Post by **Jason** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 4:35 pm

Jared wrote:Been married for one month today. So far, so good.

Rookie!!!

Kazuya · Post by **Kazuya** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 5:20 pm

Very interesting to hear all of the different perspectives. I am going to try to get married in my early thirties, hopefully I will have the right mix of education, accomplishment and maturity while having all of the "single" stuff out of my system. Of course, now that I've said that, it won't unfold anywhere near that way. Keep those "wife impressions" coming!

TheTruth · Post by **TheTruth** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 6:34 pm

Married 4 years and 3 months. First little one on the way. I couldn't imagine life without my spouse. Need to tell her that more often. Thanks guys..I may just get some pregnant lady lovin' now!

Post by **ScoopBrady** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 8:18 pm

I've been married for 2 long. Just kidding, it's been 5 and a half years now and there's no way I'd want to go back to the single life again. Life is so much more rewarding when you have a family to share it with. That being said, it was very rough when I was laid off right when we found out we were pregnant and was then unemployed for over a year. Nothing strains a relationship quite like financial problems. Fortunately that is in the past and things are going great now.

And Jared, congrats on getting hitched. I had no idea you tied the knot. But I must say if you've only been married for a month it doesn't count.

You can still back out without major repercussions.

F308GTB · Post by **F308GTB** » Wed Dec 22, 2004 9:14 pm

Come Jan. 5 it will be 14 years for me and the wife. Married at 21 and we met in high school. We had rough spots along the way, probably due mostly to my immaturity (heck, we guys take a little longer to grow up than women), but we persevered and it's been great. I am happy just sitting next to her, and she is my best friend.

She is not demanding of my time, nor I of hers. Fortunately or unfortunately we don't have kids so we don't have to worry about the constraints they place on you. She gives me space and I reciprocate. The common time is a joy. I always am able to make her laugh, even after all these years. A fine woman indeed.

Would not even want to think of being single.