OT : Office Romances ?

Sudz · Post by **Sudz** » Tue Aug 08, 2006 3:46 pm

dbdynsty25 wrote:When you speak it usually is...your soapy hard-on for anything I say has me defensive. My bad.

u just described my saturday nights.

LOVE THE HR CRACK!

anyway...sorry...

snaz16 · Post by **snaz16** » Tue Aug 08, 2006 8:45 pm

pigpen81 wrote:To work for a few months around this girl without even mentioning your wife in a passing conversation is garbage IMO.

It sounds like you secretly liked the attention and did lead her on.

I always throw my wife into a conversation when I meet a woman.....something like, "My wife and I like to walk to the park after work."

Good luck but I think you owe both the woman and your wife an aplogy.

He doesn't owe anybody sh!t. She at some point couldn't ask if he was attached,seeing someone? Sounds to me like he's doing his job,and she asked him out,and got turned down. If I had a 10 spot for every time I got rebuffed, I could pay for the pu$$y

She needs to get over it,and move on. .....An apology??

HouOilers · Post by **HouOilers** » Tue Aug 08, 2006 9:36 pm

Hello guys.

Well I took some of your advice and have an update.

I asked people around the office, the ones I trust, about going to HR. Well, to a man, they told me forget about it. They said HR is full of women and they always will take the side of the woman.

I think I will just let it calm down on it's own.

As to respond to some of the posts, yes I have talked this over with my wife. I am very honest with her. To be honest, maybe I was a little guilty enjoying the attention. Sort of like saying to yourself, you still got it man, you playa. But I never intended to give the wrong impression so I think it was mostly a misunderstanding on her part.

As for family pictures at the office, I dont have any. I just dont like mixing family and work. When I leave the office, work stays at the office. When I leave home, I dont like to have my family in anyway assoicated with work. So I probably won't do that. And my job requires lots of work with hands, so rings are out of the question.

But one thing disturbs me. Do you guys sometimes think about how it would be to be single again? I never thought about it until this damn incident happened. I won't cheat or ruin my marriage, but do you guys ever get that feeling? If you do, how do you fight it? Is it just a guy thing?

Zlax45 · Post by **Zlax45** » Tue Aug 08, 2006 10:43 pm

A guy at my job was caught tonight banging one of the other staff...The guy was her supervisor and he was fired on the spot while the Woman resigned...Just odd this thread came up today and a situation like this happens at my job.

JRod · Post by **JRod** » Wed Aug 09, 2006 12:44 am

Do not get your honey where you get your money.

ProvoAnC · Post by **ProvoAnC** » Wed Aug 09, 2006 1:09 am

Don't fish of the company pier or dip your pen in company ink

Inuyasha · Post by **Inuyasha** » Wed Aug 09, 2006 1:12 am

I'll share my experience from years back where I had taken a new job.

There was a girl that worked on my same floor and a couple of offices down from mine. I never worked with her and never even knew her but by the name on her office door. She was pretty young but already held a prominent position at the company.

To move the story along, I find out that she was interested in me. I think it was due to the fact I had a corner office and I meet eyes with everyone who would pass down that hallway. Maybe she thought I just had eyes for her. Remember, I just knew her by nameplate & face and never talked to her before. It was just one of those things where she was single and I was not and she may have thought we could have gone somewhere.

Eventually, she found out later I had a steady girlfriend and that was the end of that. She didn't go psycho like your girl so I must have lucked out. After that, I had put in a picture of my girlfriend in the office just to avoid these type of occurrences.

But..........I use to wonder back then, what if. What If for some crazy reason I hooked up with her. What kind of life would I be living now? I can't complain, everything worked out for the best in the long run

JackB1 · Post by **JackB1** » Wed Aug 09, 2006 1:14 am

I tend to question EVERYTHING in my life, including my wife.
I never think about what it would be like being "single" again,
but I question what it would be like with another women who
has the things that my wife doesn't. I sometimes think I deserve everything I am looking for in a marriage, but then I think to myself that no woman will have everything I am looking for. So it always comes down to this.......would I be happier with her or without her and the answer is always "with", so that ends it for the time being. I wish I was 100% happy with her all the time, but the truth is I am not and probably never will me. Does that mean I should dump her and look for someone else? Probably not. I think men yearn for that excitement they feel when they first meet someone new and everything is new and fresh. Marriage tends to make everything extrememely routine and you sometimes feel like you are missing out on something else better. Human nature I guess.

HouOilers wrote: But one thing disturbs me. Do you guys sometimes think about how it would be to be single again? I never thought about it until this damn incident happened. I won't cheat or ruin my marriage, but do you guys ever get that feeling? If you do, how do you fight it? Is it just a guy thing?

Inuyasha · Post by **Inuyasha** » Wed Aug 09, 2006 1:19 am

JackB1 wrote:I tend to question EVERYTHING in my life, including my wife.
I never think about what it would be like being "single" again,
but I question what it would be like with another women who
has the things that my wife doesn't. I sometimes think I deserve everything I am looking for in a marriage, but then I think to myself that no woman will have everything I am looking for. So it always comes down to this.......would I be happier with her or without her and the answer is always "with", so that ends it for the time being. I wish I was 100% happy with her all the time, but the truth is I am not and probably never will me. Does that mean I should dump her and look for someone else? Probably not. I think men yearn for that excitement they feel when they first meet someone new and everything is new and fresh. Marriage tends to make everything extrememely routine and you sometimes feel like you are missing out on something else better. Human nature I guess.

HouOilers wrote: But one thing disturbs me. Do you guys sometimes think about how it would be to be single again? I never thought about it until this damn incident happened. I won't cheat or ruin my marriage, but do you guys ever get that feeling? If you do, how do you fight it? Is it just a guy thing?

I think for Men it's like videogames. You always have this great classic videogame around that you love to play. But sometimes another videogame comes along that you think can replace the classic but after a the initial first impression, it wears off and never comes close to the classic game.

I think you're right, as men, we yearn for excitment and sometimes fall into these traps.

WillHunting · Post by **WillHunting** » Wed Aug 09, 2006 10:27 am

HouOilers wrote:But one thing disturbs me. Do you guys sometimes think about how it would be to be single again? I never thought about it until this damn incident happened. I won't cheat or ruin my marriage, but do you guys ever get that feeling? If you do, how do you fight it? Is it just a guy thing?

I don't really entertain the idea of being single again. I married a wonderful person, a better half in every sense of the word. She is my best friend and she accepts me completely.... I find that remarkable. I wouldn't give that up for anyone. Sure, there are temptations and what not out there (trust me in NYC on a hot summer day, there are plenty of eye candy). But they are just objects, they are not real and they will 99.99999999% turn out to be WORSE that you can imagine.

My brother and my inlaws went through a divorce the past couple of years (both involved 3rd parties) and I have seen how devastating it is to the kids, to the parents, to everyone surrounding the situation. I do not want to lose what I have, and I do not want to cause pain to those I love.

Leebo33 · Post by **Leebo33** » Wed Aug 09, 2006 11:34 am

I met my wife a couple weeks after one of the most depressing days of my life...my 30th birthday spent alone hundreds of miles from friends and family. There's not a day that I don't think about how lucky I was to meet her (ironically, in the workplace...LOL). I do think about being single all the time...and how much it would suck compared to my life now with my beautiful family.

Brando70 · Post by **Brando70** » Wed Aug 09, 2006 12:34 pm

HouOilers wrote:But one thing disturbs me. Do you guys sometimes think about how it would be to be single again?

I know how it would be for most of us -- like this board, but in person.

Marriage isn't for everybody, and some marriages don't work out, but I am very happy to be married (12 years now). I even got married young (23) and still don't regret it.

It was especially interesting getting married in my early 20s and moving to NYC, where most people don't even think about marriage before 30. Yet I was happier than 90% of the single men and women I knew.

Do I peruse the menu? Of course, and I know my wife does to. I'm sure when Madden 07 comes out she'll be thinking about other guys

But at the end of the day we know we were meant to be together and would never jeopardize that.

And she used some of her book money to buy me a freaking plasma! That's love.

Post by **ScoopBrady** » Wed Aug 09, 2006 12:58 pm

I'm getting a blowjob from some office skank as I type this.

It's human nature to sit and if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence but what defines a man is whether he decides to find out or not. I don't have pictures of my wife at work and I don't find ways to work her into conversations. Does that make me a bad husband? I don't think so because I don't hide the fact that I'm married, I just don't feel the need to mention it every chance I get.

Zlax45 · Post by **Zlax45** » Wed Aug 09, 2006 1:05 pm

BTW The people at my workplace are both married to different people!!!

HouOilers · Post by **HouOilers** » Wed Aug 09, 2006 5:56 pm

This has gone to total sh1t!

I find out today that the woman has been talking about me behind my back to her coworkers. She's saying things describing me as being weird and not sociable.

When I even see her in the place, I just cringe and head back the way I am coming from.

It's been getting really hard to work these last few days with all this going down all at once. I think I will just go to HR and voice my complaint.

JackB1 · Post by **JackB1** » Wed Aug 09, 2006 6:04 pm

sorry to hear this. Hope things get better. You know what
they say about a "woman scorned"! hopefully it will all
just blow over.

HouOilers wrote:This has gone to total sh1t!

I find out today that the woman has been talking about me behind my back to her coworkers. She's saying things describing me as being weird and not sociable.

When I even see her in the place, I just cringe and head back the way I am coming from.

It's been getting really hard to work these last few days with all this going down all at once. I think I will just go to HR and voice my complaint.

Inuyasha · Post by **Inuyasha** » Wed Aug 09, 2006 8:31 pm

Leebo33 wrote:I met my wife a couple weeks after one of the most depressing days of my life...my 30th birthday spent alone hundreds of miles from friends and family. There's not a day that I don't think about how lucky I was to meet her (ironically, in the workplace...LOL). I do think about being single all the time...and how much it would suck compared to my life now with my beautiful family.

Good point. I remember when I was single and it was a long holiday weekend and I had no girl, that I would spend it with the guys and go out and drink like every other guy. But I would think deep inside how much better it would be if I had a girl with me instead. Those lonely days sucked, so be happy with the woman you have Oilers.

HouOilers · Post by **HouOilers** » Sat Aug 12, 2006 2:43 am

Well I think it's over!

The crazy woman is after another victim and seems to have forgotten about me! I saw her next victim and he had a look of fear on his face.

I did learn from this whole ordeal that this lady at work is known for this and is a very desperate person.

So I hope this ends it. Thanks for everyone's advice.

DivotMaker · Post by **DivotMaker** » Sat Aug 12, 2006 10:27 am

HouOilers wrote:Well I think it's over!

The crazy woman is after another victim and seems to have forgotten about me! I saw her next victim and he had a look of fear on his face.

I did learn from this whole ordeal that this lady at work is known for this and is a very desperate person.

So I hope this ends it. Thanks for everyone's advice.

Someone needs to document this persons actions and file a complaint and/or shitcan her because she sounds like a cancer in your workplace.

fletcher21 · Post by **fletcher21** » Sat Aug 12, 2006 1:40 pm

in the words of eminem: "hit that s*** raw dog then bail"

HouOilers · Post by **HouOilers** » Sun Aug 13, 2006 2:14 am

fletcher21 wrote:in the words of eminem: "hit that s*** raw dog then bail"

LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!

Funny how this is humorous today and wouldnt have been last week.

Kissrox · Post by **Kissrox** » Sun Aug 13, 2006 10:45 am

Men have and will, for centuries, will always want another women. We have a biological need to spread our "seed" and keep the human race going. Most women do not have the same urge when they look at a member of the opposite sex and think about what it would be like. Of course there are exceptions to every rule. Marriage is a creation. If you get married, fine, keep it zipped. That is the vow you took. If you are married and want to have an affair, get divorced. Don't cheat. Be honest. We all make mistakes and grow apart. Men have much harder, IMO, time being faithful. Of course this is just a generalization.

FYI- I am married and I think and look at other women. I made a vow. so I keep it zipped. I too wonder what it would be like.....

SoMisss2000 · Post by **SoMisss2000** » Sun Aug 13, 2006 4:00 pm

FYI- I am married and I think and look at other women. I made a vow. so I keep it zipped. I too wonder what it would be like.....

Ditto. I look too. I'm married, not blind. I was just in Wal-Mart picking up a few items for dinner and there happened to be an abundance of hot women in there. Black, White, Latino, I was in heaven. Good thing wifey wasn't with me.

WillHunting · Post by **WillHunting** » Sun Aug 13, 2006 5:42 pm

SoMisss2000 wrote:
FYI- I am married and I think and look at other women. I made a vow. so I keep it zipped. I too wonder what it would be like.....
Ditto. I look too. I'm married, not blind. I was just in Wal-Mart picking up a few items for dinner and there happened to be an abundance of hot women in there. Black, White, Latino, I was in heaven. Good thing wifey wasn't with me.

You are a liar. I have never seen any women under 300lbs at Walmart, let alone attractive.

mobiggins · Post by **mobiggins** » Sun Aug 13, 2006 7:17 pm

Yeah...attractive women at walmart?? Where do you live, my friend.

Oddly enough, I had a woman just like that at my work last year. We hung out a couple of times and I though we were just cool as friends, then she grabs my hand one day as we happen to be walking out the building and professes her love to me and tells me that she wants to be with me, etc. Now I hadn't made one come-on or innuendo to her, I knew she was damaged goods (recent divorcee with a kid in tow), so I was staying away on that end. Thankfully we ended up working at different ends of the building, so it was easy to avoid her, but the rumors started flying and a good source told me that by the end of the year (I'm a teacher! LOL!) she had slept with two coaches and another male teacher in our department! I'm glad I kept my nose clean in that situation, because in schools we don't really have an HR to run to...the rumors just fire up and conflagrate and they don't stop until the year ends or a teacher leaves. Thankfully she's teaching elsewhere this year.