OT: I Have A Problem and Need Help

pk500 · Post by **pk500** » Fri Apr 22, 2005 6:06 pm

Steve:

This might help ease your mind:

Do a search for PSP on eBay and click in the left margin on Systems and then Sony PSP. You'll find you'll get close to, or more than the $250 you paid for it.

PSP's also are selling at a pretty good price at half.com. Considering they're pretty hot devices right now, I think you'll get a fair return.

Take care,
PK

DivotMaker · Post by **DivotMaker** » Fri Apr 22, 2005 6:35 pm

grtwhtsk wrote: Please help me guys. I just don't know what to do. Oh, and not related to this, my wife is divorcing me (and moving back to OH with 2 of my kids).

Steve
grtwhtsk

Steve,

So sorry to hear about your family situation. I hope you can find a way to repair your marriage or move on and find a new partner if you can't. I really feel for your children as I hope she does not use them to get back at you.

As for the rest of your post, I can't make any useful comments as I feel your family situation might be the most important issue at this particular point in time...

XXXIV · Post by **XXXIV** » Fri Apr 22, 2005 6:35 pm

Man...Ive got some of the same problems...it is an addiction...Ive tried reading, movies,drinking, sex and even porn but nothing can keep me away from buying a new game or gadget I dont need...

I just bought a new PC to play WoW better???...I sure did..I think Im going to be trying City of heroes

I bought a PSP and I hardly ever play it....I bought a 512 MB card for it and loaded with songs I never listen to. Yesterday I picked up a case for it and I never take it anywhere.

Last week I bought Jade Empire and MC3 and I find myself playing WE8 and MVP instead.

I bought a 3rd PS2 to play GTSA and GT4...I havent touched SA in months and I cant stand the lack of acceleration control GT4 gives you with the DS controller....

The best part is that later Im going out to dinner and then some game shopping ...yep...I sure am..Im thinking of getting Lumines...good choice? or should I try the freddie Mercury game instead?

I think I might try prayer

ImDaIcon · Post by **ImDaIcon** » Fri Apr 22, 2005 8:24 pm

I shared your problem up until about a year ago. I had unopened games for Cube, XBox and PS2. I didnt have enuff time to spend on the games I was buying, yet kept buying more games. I unloaded the PS2 and set a few rules to help cutdown on my glut of games.

I now have 10 games for Xbox and 10 for Gamecube. No game comes in until one goes out. Doesnt matter if I EBay it, trade it in or whatever. If I really gotta have the newest and greatest thing, then i gotta find something I'm willing to let go to get it. I've passed on a lot of 'maybes' because I really didnt have anything I was ready to get rid of.

I dont buy any game until it has been out at least 2 weeks. I cant tell you how many times I have fallen for the 'OMG, WOW one of the best games ever' hype on this site and others only to see it die down tremendously after 10 days. Everyone like to play something new. Everyone hopes the $50 they just dropped wasnt wasted. So early impressions and reviews almost ALWAYS tend to be better when the game first comes out. If people are still excited after 2 weeks then it probably is a good game and not just the inital wow factor.

I watch very little TV, I'd rather be holding a controller than a remote. Money spent on gaming is money that isnt spent on clubs or boozing and that keeps the misses happy. So I dont think that gaming is the problem per say...I think it is your shopping habits.

Teal · Post by **Teal** » Fri Apr 22, 2005 10:09 pm

Hey, Steve:

I made a radical move in January of this year. I came home from a trip to Colorado, packed up the Xbox and all the games, and sold them for cash. Cold turkey.

There have been momentary pangs (Close Combat, most recently-thanks to PK!) but for the most part it was a good decision for me. My wife hated the thing anyway, and it really disrupted her life the way I played all the time.

Funny thing is, I just can't bring myself to buy another system. I've thought about it, but it just isn't in me.

Ever thought about cold turkey? Probably won't work for everybody, and I miss the Live interaction, but that's about it. If I could conference call Rob, Zepp, PK, Fsh, Mix and some of the others once a week...I wouldn't really miss it at all.

Hate it about your wife. Hope your ok. You know you can PM me anytime, bud...

Post by **Jared** » Fri Apr 22, 2005 10:22 pm

Steve,

I agree with Teal. I think that going cold turkey might be the best thing. If you're truly addicted, then you probably need to just stop gaming period and step back. You've got lots of things going on in your life right now, and you want to devote all your time to figuring out those things and getting them straight. Time spent gaming, while a good escape, is time not spent dealing with the other issues in life. Maybe it'd be good to just go cold turkey and then come back to gaming at a more stable time in your life.

Post by **ScoopBrady** » Fri Apr 22, 2005 10:41 pm

Sharky,
I'm sorry to hear about your impending divorce. Is it something that can be reconciled or is this a definite thing? I used to work in the Social Work field for 7 years and I do have experience in psychology. It almost sounds like you suffer from some form of OCD (obssessive/compulsive disorder). Fortunately it's not the kind that keeps you washing your hands every 2 minutes.

It's a good first step that you are realizing you have a problem with gaming but that's just a first step of many. Addiction to video games is no different than an addiction to alcohol or drugs. Addiction is addiction. Any time you try to break an addiction you need support. If you truly want to be rid of this addiction you need to sell all of your systems and games. It's rough but that's where the support comes in. We're a close-knit group around here and I'm sure many of us would be willing to be there for you. If you ever need someone to talk to you can always call me. PM me if you're interested.

Something else to think about is whether this gaming addiction is a result of replacing enjoyment you aren't getting in other areas of your life. I obviously don't know your whole situation but from some of the comments you've made in this thread it sounds like the family life wasn't working out well for you for a while now. Did you throw yourself into games as a release?

One last thing, you said your family thinks you're a failure. Don't buy into that for one minute. You are definintely not a failure. You might be going through some tough times but that does not make you a failure. 2 years ago a lot of people would have taken one look at my situation and assumed that I was a failure but they'd have been wrong. I got laid off. Found out my wife was expecting right after getting laid off. Out of work for over a year. Finally found a part-time job that I had for 6 months and then I was unemployed again for 3 more months. Don't let anyone bring you down and make you feel like a failure, you're not. If you need a friend you've got one.

fletcher21 · Post by **fletcher21** » Fri Apr 22, 2005 11:21 pm

i used to be like you grtwhtshk and now i don't own any systems and have not even played a game in months... my new addiction is my car and i sold my systems and games for s*** for my car lol... so just keep the faith bro and realize that games are fun but you can get over this and come out a better person... i miss games but you have to realize money only goes so far and u could probably find something else to spend your money on that is more rewarding to you.... on the wife situation, take it from my dad and a bunch of other men... divorce isnt the end of the world but a new start to a new life

peace

grtwhtsk · Post by **grtwhtsk** » Sat Apr 23, 2005 1:37 am

DivotMaker wrote:
grtwhtsk wrote: Please help me guys. I just don't know what to do. Oh, and not related to this, my wife is divorcing me (and moving back to OH with 2 of my kids).

Steve
grtwhtsk
Steve,

So sorry to hear about your family situation. I hope you can find a way to repair your marriage or move on and find a new partner if you can't. I really feel for your children as I hope she does not use them to get back at you.

As for the rest of your post, I can't make any useful comments as I feel your family situation might be the most important issue at this particular point in time...

Thank you for your kind words. If the divorce happens, I will lose my kids forever. I can't get into it here, but there seems to be no other way.

grtwhtsk · Post by **grtwhtsk** » Sat Apr 23, 2005 1:41 am

XXXIV wrote:Man...Ive got some of the same problems...it is an addiction...Ive tried reading, movies,drinking, sex and even porn but nothing can keep me away from buying a new game or gadget I dont need...

I just bought a new PC to play WoW better???...I sure did..I think Im going to be trying City of heroes

I bought a PSP and I hardly ever play it....I bought a 512 MB card for it and loaded with songs I never listen to. Yesterday I picked up a case for it and I never take it anywhere.

Last week I bought Jade Empire and MC3 and I find myself playing WE8 and MVP instead.

I bought a 3rd PS2 to play GTSA and GT4...I havent touched SA in months and I cant stand the lack of acceleration control GT4 gives you with the DS controller....

The best part is that later Im going out to dinner and then some game shopping ...yep...I sure am..Im thinking of getting Lumines...good choice? or should I try the freddie Mercury game instead?

I think I might try prayer

This sounds so familiar. I actually have Jade Empire and MC3 in their shrink wrap, and just don't know what to do.

I was in Target tonight, and just stared at the games. Knowing I have the money to buy one, I just stood there and could almost feel sweat coming on. Luckily I walked away. I feel so dumb.

grtwhtsk · Post by **grtwhtsk** » Sat Apr 23, 2005 2:31 am

tealboy03 wrote:Hey, Steve:

I made a radical move in January of this year. I came home from a trip to Colorado, packed up the Xbox and all the games, and sold them for cash. Cold turkey.

There have been momentary pangs (Close Combat, most recently-thanks to PK!) but for the most part it was a good decision for me. My wife hated the thing anyway, and it really disrupted her life the way I played all the time.

Funny thing is, I just can't bring myself to buy another system. I've thought about it, but it just isn't in me.

Ever thought about cold turkey? Probably won't work for everybody, and I miss the Live interaction, but that's about it. If I could conference call Rob, Zepp, PK, Fsh, Mix and some of the others once a week...I wouldn't really miss it at all.

Hate it about your wife. Hope your ok. You know you can PM me anytime, bud...

I don't know if I could go cold turkey. If I had support at home, maybe.

I may take you up on your PM offer. Thanks bud.

grtwhtsk · Post by **grtwhtsk** » Sat Apr 23, 2005 2:34 am

ScoopBrady wrote:Sharky,
I'm sorry to hear about your impending divorce. Is it something that can be reconciled or is this a definite thing? I used to work in the Social Work field for 7 years and I do have experience in psychology. It almost sounds like you suffer from some form of OCD (obssessive/compulsive disorder). Fortunately it's not the kind that keeps you washing your hands every 2 minutes.

It's a good first step that you are realizing you have a problem with gaming but that's just a first step of many. Addiction to video games is no different than an addiction to alcohol or drugs. Addiction is addiction. Any time you try to break an addiction you need support. If you truly want to be rid of this addiction you need to sell all of your systems and games. It's rough but that's where the support comes in. We're a close-knit group around here and I'm sure many of us would be willing to be there for you. If you ever need someone to talk to you can always call me. PM me if you're interested.

Something else to think about is whether this gaming addiction is a result of replacing enjoyment you aren't getting in other areas of your life. I obviously don't know your whole situation but from some of the comments you've made in this thread it sounds like the family life wasn't working out well for you for a while now. Did you throw yourself into games as a release?

One last thing, you said your family thinks you're a failure. Don't buy into that for one minute. You are definintely not a failure. You might be going through some tough times but that does not make you a failure. 2 years ago a lot of people would have taken one look at my situation and assumed that I was a failure but they'd have been wrong. I got laid off. Found out my wife was expecting right after getting laid off. Out of work for over a year. Finally found a part-time job that I had for 6 months and then I was unemployed again for 3 more months. Don't let anyone bring you down and make you feel like a failure, you're not. If you need a friend you've got one.

Thanks Scoop. I am too tired to reply now (it's 1:30 AM here now), but I will probably PM you at some point in the next few days. I really do need someone to talk to. Thanks again.

grtwhtsk · Post by **grtwhtsk** » Sat Apr 23, 2005 2:36 am

fletcher21 wrote:i used to be like you grtwhtshk and now i don't own any systems and have not even played a game in months... my new addiction is my car and i sold my systems and games for s*** for my car lol... so just keep the faith bro and realize that games are fun but you can get over this and come out a better person... i miss games but you have to realize money only goes so far and u could probably find something else to spend your money on that is more rewarding to you.... on the wife situation, take it from my dad and a bunch of other men... divorce isnt the end of the world but a new start to a new life

peace

Thanks Fletcher.

Jayhawker · Post by **Jayhawker** » Sat Apr 23, 2005 7:15 am

Steve,

I'm sorry you are facing such a rough time. I'm going to agree with Teal and Jared. You need to just ditch gaming altogether for now. The fact that you don't think you could go cold turkey is the most obvious sign that you are not in control, and that is what you need to regain.

My advice is to sell it all. Return unopened games and make a fresh start. Then you need some real help. Talk to a psychiatrist or psychologist. Sounds extreme for gaming, but with a divorce, and your perception that your kids will be gone forever, you really need to get a handle on things right now.

Let me suggest two books that would be of great alue to you as well. The first is The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People by Steven Covey. It sounds like a get rich quick book, but it is far from it. Look up some reviews of it. It can be life changing, as you begin to view your life in a much different way. It's a great way to regain control over your life.

The second book is the Art of Happiness by His Holiness the Dalai Lama. This is not a book about Buddhism! It is about life, and almost seems like it was written just for you, but it is really targeted at American society. We have a knack for confusing pleasure with happiness. We are attracted to "things" that we think will make us happy, but are actually just satisfying a desire. But it is temporary! There is always a better game, a cooler car, a faster computer. Here's the kicker, these things are not making you happy. Look at what you written here, and it is clear gaming is not something that will make you happy right now. It stresses you out, and fills you with guilt.

But that's good! That means you have what it takes to reverse the situation you have found yourself in. Your senses are working perfectly. Now it is just time to start creating a plan that will focus your energy on what will create happiness.Gaming doesn't have to be over for you. You just need to get away from it for now, while you work at getting things in order.

You really do not mention what is causing the divorce, and I suspect it is more than just gaming. Marriage is hard, but your kids deserve your effort in order to keep it going. If it's not too late, please try to make it happen for them. If it is too late, realize that your kids are a responsibility YOU created. If you do not spend every day trying to be the best dad you can be, it will be to the detriment of your kids. You don't have to succeed, you just have to try. That's all kids want, which is unconditional love. If you provide that, that will strengthen them, and help them work through the hardships they will face when their parents divorce. Please understand that the hardhips they will face are lifelong. When you created them, you were agreeing to raise them in a way that would help them survive in this world. Divorce doesn't change it.

I feel for you, as you have a tough road ahead. It's up to you to start making it easier now. If you put this off, it just gets worse.

Good luck! Feel free to PM anytime, and we can exchange numbers and talk.

Tom

grtwhtsk · Post by **grtwhtsk** » Mon Apr 25, 2005 12:17 am

I am definitely looking to sell my PSP, but not sure if I can go cold turkey by selling my xbox as well. I'm afraid I may just going on a spending spree or something once my wife and children are gone.

As for selling the PSP, one person has expressed interest, and I'm waiting to hear from him. Is anyone else interested in buying the PSP from me? I am not looking for any sort of bidding war or anything. In fact, if this other person gets back to me, it's his. If not, it will be sold to anyone here who is interested. The PSP I have is in perfect condition, and has no dead pixels (that I can see anyway). I have MLB (opened), amd Lumines (unopened). I also have the Logitech case (unopened). If a person wants to buy just the PSP, I am willing to do that. I can sell the other things separately.

Please help me out guys. I would really like to get rid of the PSP, and could use the money too.

Please PM me. Thanks.

Steve

kicko · Post by **kicko** » Mon Apr 25, 2005 8:30 am

I;m going to disagree on the cold turkey bit, only because now your going to have some free time on your hands without your family around, but seriously need to cut it back in a major way (one console only), i use the "on your own time method" after my family is sleeping is when i get to play games. Mostly for me I play sports, so its baseball season, i play my one or two franchise games a night and call it quits. If i go to bed at 2am to be up at 6am then who takes the heat? i do. No one else is bothered with my gameplay. Right now man you need to give it time to heal, i don't even know if the martial situation is due to games or a whole bunch of things. it don't really matter, whatever it was you need to show your wife that issue(s) is delt with and nothing will interfere with family. Good luck! I hope it will work out.

grtwhtsk · Post by **grtwhtsk** » Mon Apr 25, 2005 9:05 am

kicko wrote:I;m going to disagree on the cold turkey bit, only because now your going to have some free time on your hands without your family around, but seriously need to cut it back in a major way (one console only), i use the "on your own time method" after my family is sleeping is when i get to play games. Mostly for me I play sports, so its baseball season, i play my one or two franchise games a night and call it quits. If i go to bed at 2am to be up at 6am then who takes the heat? i do. No one else is bothered with my gameplay. Right now man you need to give it time to heal, i don't even know if the martial situation is due to games or a whole bunch of things. it don't really matter, whatever it was you need to show your wife that issue(s) is delt with and nothing will interfere with family. Good luck! I hope it will work out.

The video games are not our main problem. It is a problem though in terms of my wife saying that I am selfish buying whatever I want just because I want it. She's right. The real problem with our marriage centers around a little boy who is only seven. He is my first child, and his mom lives here in ND. It is the only reason I live in ND. I am not going to say anything bad about my wife on a public forum like this. It's not right.

Leebo33 · Post by **Leebo33** » Mon Apr 25, 2005 9:49 am

kicko wrote:I'm going to disagree on the cold turkey bit

I think it really depends on the person. When I want to quit something I need to do it gradually. I quit a 16 year smokeless tobacco addition gradually over a few month period. I identified the times that I would use it and then gradually take one period away every week or two. I've been clean for 5 years now. I tried to quit cold turkey plenty of times before and never made it past 3 days. I have also had much more success on diets that limit portions and snacks rather than totally eliminate foods that I enjoy. I also made the switch from loaded soda to diet over a few month period.

Steve, have you ever successfully quit an addiction before? I would try the same method. I've seen some good advice in this thread. I think the "2 week rule" is great advice. I started doing that for non-sports games and it's cut back on a few of my purchases. A year ago I would have been all over Jade Empire, God of War, Close Combat, MGS:SE, etc. etc. I think the important thing is to develop your other hobbies or interests so that video games is just one of them. I would identify some things you want to accomplish and just knock some of them off. It could be anything...learning an instrument, running a marathon, learning a foreign language, weight lifting, going back to school, reading books, etc.

grtwhtsk · Post by **grtwhtsk** » Mon Apr 25, 2005 10:15 am

Leebo33 wrote:
kicko wrote:I'm going to disagree on the cold turkey bit
I think it really depends on the person. When I want to quit something I need to do it gradually. I quit a 16 year smokeless tobacco addition gradually over a few month period. I identified the times that I would use it and then gradually take one period away every week or two. I've been clean for 5 years now. I tried to quit cold turkey plenty of times before and never made it past 3 days. I have also had much more success on diets that limit portions and snacks rather than totally eliminate foods that I enjoy. I also made the switch from loaded soda to diet over a few month period.

Steve, have you ever successfully quit an addiction before? I would try the same method. I've seen some good advice in this thread. I think the "2 week rule" is great advice. I started doing that for non-sports games and it's cut back on a few of my purchases. A year ago I would have been all over Jade Empire, God of War, Close Combat, MGS:SE, etc. etc. I think the important thing is to develop your other hobbies or interests so that video games is just one of them. I would identify some things you want to accomplish and just knock some of them off. It could be anything...learning an instrument, running a marathon, learning a foreign language, weight lifting, going back to school, reading books, etc.

Leebo, I guess the closest thing to quitting an addiction was with weight loss. I don't really know though if I was addicted to the food, or just eating the wrong stuff. I do know that by using a program where I just cut down on my intake and such, I did very well.

By the way, I still have Jade Empire and Wrestlemania 21 in their shrink wrap (think Midnight 3 DUB might be as well). I know that Jade Empire and Wrestlemania must go back, even if they might bring some fun.

I see it, yet I don't stop. I hear about what's new and "hot," and I have to have it. I hate this.

Spooky · Post by **Spooky** » Mon Apr 25, 2005 10:23 am

grtwhtsk wrote: I see it, yet I don't stop. I hear about what's new and "hot," and I have to have it. I hate this.

I guess the question you really need to ask youself at this point is WHY?

Why do you feel that you need these 'new', 'hot' games? What is it about them that are fulfilling you? Do you really even have time to play all these games? What is the void in your life that you are trying desperately to fill with these games?

I don't mean to be too forward here. I just think these questions might help evaluate your problem.

HipE · Post by **HipE** » Mon Apr 25, 2005 10:32 am

If you can't stop yourself from buying what you hear is "hot", maybe you should stop visiting gaming websites and forums. There is no way you are going to be able to cut back or quit gaming if you are reading a gaming message board filled with people raving about the latest and greatest games. Try staying away from any gaming related sites for a week and stay away from the videogame section at stores when you are out for awhile. If I was an alcoholic trying to quit drinking, I don't think hanging out in a bar every day would be much help.

grtwhtsk · Post by **grtwhtsk** » Mon Apr 25, 2005 10:33 am

Spooky wrote:
grtwhtsk wrote: I see it, yet I don't stop. I hear about what's new and "hot," and I have to have it. I hate this.
I guess the question you really need to ask youself at this point is WHY?

Why do you feel that you need these 'new', 'hot' games? What is it about them that are fulfilling you? Do you really even have time to play all these games? What is the void in your life that you are trying desperately to fill with these games?

I don't mean to be too forward here. I just think these questions might help evaluate your problem.

Spooky, you are not being too forward.

I often ask myself WHY. I think part of it is that I get into the hype. Sometimes I wonder why I never get into games like the GTA series. I think, "is there something wrong with me? Those are supposed to be the best." Most of the time, if opened, I just lose patience with them and trade them in. For example, I'm not a stealth guy, yet I grabbed the original Splinter Cell first day it came out. I knew I would get bored pretty fast, full of frustration, etc. Yet, I bought it.

As to having time, I have some, but not a lot. The one game as of late that I really loved playing (before I sold my PS2) was God of War. Then I saw that beautiful PSP, and had to have it. So I sold the PS2 and the one non-sports game that I was playing a lot to help fund the PSP purchase. Now I must get rid of the PSP, and of course keep thinking that I want to play God of War again.

No matter what happens, I have to sell the PSP. I hope someone out there wants it. I will start another thread (sorry Scott) for that. Once that is done, I can take another step on ridding this addiction.

PK, I can't do ebay buddy. I get too frustrated just looking at the whole setup, and waitng for an auction, payment, etc. I know the marital problems are just heaping on to an already beaten man. Thanks for the suggestion though.

I need someone to talk to. I don't want a therapist, just a friend. So if anyone wants to talk, please PM me. I will gladly call, or you can call me (if you don't want to give your phone number).

Thanks again guys. I don't know what I would do without ya.

Spooky · Post by **Spooky** » Mon Apr 25, 2005 10:55 am

grtwhtsk wrote:
Spooky wrote:
grtwhtsk wrote: I see it, yet I don't stop. I hear about what's new and "hot," and I have to have it. I hate this.
I guess the question you really need to ask youself at this point is WHY?

Why do you feel that you need these 'new', 'hot' games? What is it about them that are fulfilling you? Do you really even have time to play all these games? What is the void in your life that you are trying desperately to fill with these games?

I don't mean to be too forward here. I just think these questions might help evaluate your problem.
Spooky, you are not being too forward.

As to having time, I have some, but not a lot. The one game as of late that I really loved playing (before I sold my PS2) was God of War. Then I saw that beautiful PSP, and had to have it. So I sold the PS2 and the one non-sports game that I was playing a lot to help fund the PSP purchase. Now I must get rid of the PSP, and of course keep thinking that I want to play God of War again.

Well, if you don't think I am being too forward, then, F*CK God of War!!! Who cares? It's just a game. You will feel NO more fulfilled after you play it. In fact. you'll probably just get it again, never finish it and move on to the next 'hot' game. I'm no doctor but it sounds as if you suffer a bit from an obsessive/compulsive disorder. Try and address that and in the meantime, just tell yourself that buying any new games, especially if they are not games that you know interest you, ARE NOT AN OPTION! Use that line in your head, over and over. IT"S JUST NOT AN OPTION!!!

"Damn, I would LOVE to get that new ___ game, that sucks though becasue it is NOT AN OPTION for me at this point!"

"Holy sh*t the new Forza looks sick! Oh well, guess I'll have to pass on it becasue buying it is absolutely NOT AN OPTION for me! Oh well, f*ck it, I'll live.."

It may sound corny, but that one line helped me quit smoking.

grtwhtsk · Post by **grtwhtsk** » Mon Apr 25, 2005 11:00 am

Spooky wrote:
grtwhtsk wrote:
Spooky wrote: I guess the question you really need to ask youself at this point is WHY?

Why do you feel that you need these 'new', 'hot' games? What is it about them that are fulfilling you? Do you really even have time to play all these games? What is the void in your life that you are trying desperately to fill with these games?

I don't mean to be too forward here. I just think these questions might help evaluate your problem.
Spooky, you are not being too forward.

As to having time, I have some, but not a lot. The one game as of late that I really loved playing (before I sold my PS2) was God of War. Then I saw that beautiful PSP, and had to have it. So I sold the PS2 and the one non-sports game that I was playing a lot to help fund the PSP purchase. Now I must get rid of the PSP, and of course keep thinking that I want to play God of War again.
Well, if you don't think I am being too forward, then, F*CK God of War!!! Who cares? It's just a game. You will feel NO more fulfilled after you play it. In fact. you'll probably just get it again, never finish it and move on to the next 'hot' game. I'm no doctor but it sounds as if you suffer a bit from an obsessive/compulsive disorder. Try and address that and in the meantime, just tell yourself that buying any new games, especially if they are not games that you know interest you, ARE NOT AN OPTION! Use that line in your head, over and over. IT"S JUST NOT AN OPTION!!!

"Damn, I would LOVE to get that new ___ game, that sucks though becasue it is NOT AN OPTION for me at this point!"

"Holy sh*t the new Forza looks sick! Oh well, guess I'll have to pass on it becasue buying it is absolutely NOT AN OPTION for me! Oh well, f*ck it, I'll live.."

It may sound corny, but that one line helped me quit smoking.

That is great advice Spooky. That needs to be my mantra.

kicko · Post by **kicko** » Mon Apr 25, 2005 11:04 am

i think that if you read cold turkey is the best method to quit, i was only referring to games and the time you might have on your hands now. You should downsize "your" spending lifestyle, again man i feel for you and i don't know the whole picture, but maybe buying some gifts for your wife, more importantly you need to show her that its not all bout you, or whatever she is saying. Could i use a PSP? sure i'd love one but can i get one? most likey not, i really don't have money like that. I was curious...who does the bills in your house? My wife does ours and i have to trade games in all the time just to get a new one, again not like i have a lot on money but she keeps track of what we can and can't afford, sometimes games are included in that.

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