OT:At a loss - Happy Ending update
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Been there, done that. Our second boy died 6 months into the pregnancy, due to Trisomy 13, a rare chromosomal disease that affects only 1 in 50,000 babies. We felt we'd just won the lottery from hell.
But three times? Man, I hate that. Your wife will begin believing some terrible (and false) things about herself, if she's not really careful. It's not her...it's this f***ed up world we live in. I don't want to go into too much here, but you guys are under attack, it seems to me. If you want to talk more about it, you can PM me, but suffice to say...I'll definitely pray for her (and you, our job as the man of the house can suck in times like these, because we have to be strong when we don't really feel all that strong). Just be there for her. I know you are already.
Prayers, man...
But three times? Man, I hate that. Your wife will begin believing some terrible (and false) things about herself, if she's not really careful. It's not her...it's this f***ed up world we live in. I don't want to go into too much here, but you guys are under attack, it seems to me. If you want to talk more about it, you can PM me, but suffice to say...I'll definitely pray for her (and you, our job as the man of the house can suck in times like these, because we have to be strong when we don't really feel all that strong). Just be there for her. I know you are already.
Prayers, man...
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Scoop -
Hang in there, my wife and I went through this 5 times.
We tried everything, drugs, shots you name it. Then we reversed our plan which was always to have a child and adopt and we found the best girl in the world my oldest daughter Shayla who means more to me then anything. Just when I thought things couldn't get any better fate stepped in and after 7 years of trying we had another baby girl.
Fate is a fickle b*tch but I am a firm believer that if you roll with the punches good things will come your way.
Hang in there, my wife and I went through this 5 times.
We tried everything, drugs, shots you name it. Then we reversed our plan which was always to have a child and adopt and we found the best girl in the world my oldest daughter Shayla who means more to me then anything. Just when I thought things couldn't get any better fate stepped in and after 7 years of trying we had another baby girl.
Fate is a fickle b*tch but I am a firm believer that if you roll with the punches good things will come your way.
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Danimal wrote:Scoop -
Hang in there, my wife and I went through this 5 times.
We tried everything, drugs, shots you name it. Then we reversed our plan which was always to have a child and adopt and we found the best girl in the world my oldest daughter Shayla who means more to me then anything. Just when I thought things couldn't get any better fate stepped in and after 7 years of trying we had another baby girl.
Fate is a fickle b*tch but I am a firm believer that if you roll with the punches good things will come your way.
Scoop...I was also going to suggest adoption as an alternative, but wasn't sure if this was the "right time" and please forgive me if I am being too forward. First let me say that what you and your wife are going thru is much more common than you think. People don't talk about it openly and you would never know, but rest assured you have lots of company here. It is also very common for a couple to stop "trying" and to adopt a child and THEN they give birth to a 2nd child naturally a few years down the road. Being adopted myself, I always felt "special" because I knew my parents "wanted me" more than anything. There are plently of parentless children here and abroad that would be eternally grateful for a set of loving parents. Maybe just something to think about. Again...I feel for you guys and only wish you the best.
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Scoop,ScoopBrady wrote:At this point I don't know if this is some sort of sick joke but I can tell you that the third time is definitely not a charm. I just found out yesterday that for the third time my wife's pregnancy will not make it and that we could schedule a DNC or wait for it to happen naturally. Supposedly they are going to run some tests to see if there's a reason why this keeps happening. It feels like every time I try to get back up I get kicked in the ribs. I'm hopeful that the tests will provide some sort of solution but that doesn't make it any easier now. Keep my wife in your prayers fellas.
Devastating news. I can't possibly begin to fathom what you and your wife are going through. It saddens me that good people like yourselves who WANT children have such obstacles to overcome. It is not fair and I wish for God to bless you both in some way that helps you both as you continue to cope with such tragedies. God Bless you both.
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Very sorry to hear Scoop. I really cannot say anything more that what people already have said here, and for the fact I don't have any kids. But please know that my prayers will be with you and your wife.ScoopBrady wrote:At this point I don't know if this is some sort of sick joke but I can tell you that the third time is definitely not a charm. I just found out yesterday that for the third time my wife's pregnancy will not make it and that we could schedule a DNC or wait for it to happen naturally. Supposedly they are going to run some tests to see if there's a reason why this keeps happening. It feels like every time I try to get back up I get kicked in the ribs. I'm hopeful that the tests will provide some sort of solution but that doesn't make it any easier now. Keep my wife in your prayers fellas.
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Thanks for all of the kind words and support fellas. The good news is that the doctor did find some abnormalities in the last blood testing and she's hopeful that a specialist can help out. The bad news is they are now suspecting an ectopic pregnancy and now I'm a nervous wreck. Hopefully all of this goes away soon and we can work forward towards our goal. Thanks again guys.
I am a patient boy.
I wait, I wait, I wait, I wait.
My time is water down a drain.
I wait, I wait, I wait, I wait.
My time is water down a drain.
