OT:At a loss - Happy Ending update

Brando70 · Post by **Brando70** » Mon Oct 22, 2007 11:55 pm

Scoop, I am so sorry to hear that. My wife and I have been through one miscarriage after getting to the first ultrasound, and then have yet to have a child in the seven years since because of a Gordian knot of infertility issues. I will never forget the day I saw the baby on the ultrasound, only to be told a moment later that the pregnancy wouldn't last. It's depressing, despairing, and infuriating to go through things like this. Let it out, and then take comfort in the family you have. Those are the two things that can help you get through such a terrible event.

slyguy · Post by **slyguy** » Tue Oct 23, 2007 12:17 am

Scoop sorry to hear. Stay strong, my heart and prayers go out to you and your family

johnvon314 · Post by **johnvon314** » Tue Oct 23, 2007 12:31 am

Can't add much to what has been said except I am very sorry to read this. Even being a guy, I have to admit to shedding tears when I see stuff like this.

John

webdanzer · Post by **webdanzer** » Tue Oct 23, 2007 12:32 am

My heartfelt condolences, Scoop. Not that it should make you feel any better about things, but this sort of thing is more common than you may think, as shown by some of the previous posts already. You'll no doubt find both sympathy and understanding here.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

sportdan30 · Post by **sportdan30** » Tue Oct 23, 2007 12:39 am

All I keep asking myself while I'm trying to fight back tears is how and why did this happen? I realize some things are unexplainable, but it isn't fair for it to happen to someone so compassionate and sincere as yourself. I'm sure I'm talking about your wife as well....

My deepest sympathy.

Jackdog · Post by **Jackdog** » Tue Oct 23, 2007 4:23 am

Todd,I have no words brother. Please know your family is in our prayers. PM me for my number if you ever need to talk.

DivotMaker · Post by **DivotMaker** » Tue Oct 23, 2007 6:49 am

Scoop,

Like the title of this thread, I am at a loss for words. I can't put myself in your shoes because I have never experienced what you and your wife have. All I can say is that I will say a prayer for both of you and hope that somehow you and she find peace and comfort.

Blublub · Post by **Blublub** » Tue Oct 23, 2007 8:21 am

Very sorry to hear - my condolences.

grtwhtsk · Post by **grtwhtsk** » Tue Oct 23, 2007 9:09 am

Scoop, so sorry to hear about your loss. You and your family will be in my Prayers. If you need anything (talk, play online, etc.), please PM me and I'll get back to you ASAP.

bdunn13 · Post by **bdunn13** » Tue Oct 23, 2007 9:40 am

My wife is pregnant so I hesitated to tell her this last night, but I did.. She knows who you are as every time you sign on to Live she sees your name pop up... We both send our wishes, thoughts and prayers.

BD

fatheadX · Post by **fatheadX** » Tue Oct 23, 2007 9:57 am

Sorry to hear about your loss, Scoop. Know that we're thinking about you at this rough time.

Leebo33 · Post by **Leebo33** » Tue Oct 23, 2007 12:16 pm

James_E wrote:Stay strong, but don't be afraid to let your feelings out with the missus. I'm sure she won't mind and a good cry together might be cathartic.

Scoop, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I think James (and everyone else for that matter) is giving great advice. We lost our first child very late in the pregnancy and I really kept the pain inside and hid my emotions from my wife. I have a 40 minute commute home from work. I usually cried on the way home in the car so my wife wouldn't see it. It wasn't until a year later on the anniversary date that I told her. I didn't realize that she didn't take it as me showing "strength." She just thought it didn't bother me that much, which is the furthest thing from the truth. We both had a good cry together and I think it brought us closer together. I am at work now and having trouble fighting back the tears both remembering my pain and feeling so very very sorry for you and your family right now.

wco81 · Post by **wco81** » Tue Oct 23, 2007 12:25 pm

Very sorry for your loss.

Hope you and your family get through this difficult time.

spooky157 · Post by **spooky157** » Tue Oct 23, 2007 12:51 pm

Sorry to hear this Scoop. I hope you and your family will able to get through something this terrible soon enough.

Post by **ScoopBrady** » Tue Oct 23, 2007 9:33 pm

Thanks for all of the kind words guys. Trust me, it helps. I've been spending my time with my wife and daughter and it really does help. I have to admit that I totally lost it at 2:00 in the morning last night while lying in bed. It felt good to get some of it out. We go to the hospital tomorrow to get this over with. It just doesn't seem fair that my wife has to go through this for a second time. Something like this makes me realize just how special my daughter is to me though. No matter how gutted I'm feeling right now that little girl can put a smile on my face with just a quick look. She's helping my wife and I get through this and she doesn't even know.

pigpen81 · Post by **pigpen81** » Tue Oct 23, 2007 9:37 pm

Scoop, stay strong. I pray for you and your wife. I am so sorry.

icvu42 · Post by **icvu42** » Tue Oct 23, 2007 10:19 pm

Don't know what to say other than I'm sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you.

Rick

GameSeven · Post by **GameSeven** » Wed Oct 24, 2007 10:25 am

Many have already said it better on this thread, but our thoughts are with you. Sadness and tragedy often have a way of strengthening our relationships and reasserting our appreciation for the things that bring us joy. May your family's future be filled with many happy times.

matthewk · Post by **matthewk** » Wed Oct 24, 2007 10:26 am

Hope you and your family are doing better with each day. I'm sorry to hear about this. You are right, it's not fair. The best thing to help get through it is to realize what you already have with your wife and daughter.

I can't say that I know exactly what you are going through, but I can realte. We had issues with both our pregnancies. Our son was born with a cleft lip and pallete. Hearing that during the first ultrasound was like having an anchor tied to my heart. That wasn't fair either; for him or us. But we made it through each day, and eventually things get better. Our second was a series of weekly ultrasounds due to an RH factor. Again, months of holding our breath and dealing with problems that did not seem right.

We don't always know why things happen, and a lot of times we can't control them. Stay positive, and know that you have already been blessed simply by having your daughter and wife there with you.

TheGamer · Post by **TheGamer** » Wed Oct 24, 2007 11:08 pm

Scoop, from my family to yours, our deepest sympathies and condolences. You are in our prayers.

Post by **ScoopBrady** » Tue Aug 19, 2008 11:31 am

At this point I don't know if this is some sort of sick joke but I can tell you that the third time is definitely not a charm. I just found out yesterday that for the third time my wife's pregnancy will not make it and that we could schedule a DNC or wait for it to happen naturally. Supposedly they are going to run some tests to see if there's a reason why this keeps happening. It feels like every time I try to get back up I get kicked in the ribs. I'm hopeful that the tests will provide some sort of solution but that doesn't make it any easier now. Keep my wife in your prayers fellas.

pk500 · Post by **pk500** » Tue Aug 19, 2008 11:34 am

Scoop:

I'm really sorry, dude. That is terrible news. Thoughts and prayers for you, your wife and your family.

Take care,
PK

Brando70 · Post by **Brando70** » Tue Aug 19, 2008 11:42 am

Scoop, I am so sorry. That is terrible news.

sportdan30 · Post by **sportdan30** » Tue Aug 19, 2008 12:09 pm

Sorry to hear the sad news Scoop. Let your wife know everyone at DSP is thinking of her.

RobVarak · Post by **RobVarak** » Tue Aug 19, 2008 12:12 pm

Scoop,

Terribly sorry about your loss, man. We're thinking about you guys.